Apology
If you know what a paradigm is; it’s a great word and I like using it. It’s appropriate today. This weekend has been pretty tough and I’m chalking it down to a co-parenting fail.
We seem to be in a push/pull groundhog day where I feel that I’m losing out. Official decisions, external influences etc. have log jammed into a head fug that gives the feeling of skiing uphill.
Settled situations appear on a horizon that can’t be reached but yet, I’m still optimistic.
I still, have so much to be grateful for:
- The cubs – love eternal
- A roof over my head – warm; dry; safe
- Food in my cupboards – work in progress…
- The ability to earn more – thanks to my health and determination.
Reality
I don’t care who you are; we are all fighting an unseen battle. There are so many cliches out there such as ‘Walk a mile…’ ‘The night is darkest before the dawn…’ ‘Every winter has it’s spring..’ (I actually quite like winter) and they all ring true.
Change your mind and change your situation. Another cliche and I recognise that this doesn’t work if you are clinically depressed; that’s a special situation that can benefit from professional intervention but for anyone else, shift your paradigm.
How
- Get a good night’s sleep – no problem was ever solved by worrying
- Eat well – fuel yourself for what you face; ditch the junk
- Exercise – if you have your health you have everything
- Break it down – your issues; biggest and most important first. If they’re stacked up it will seem like you’re in the foothills of Mt Everest. If you’re not sure which is the biggest issue, figure which one will cause the most harm if you don’t tackle it
- Create milestones – and celebrate small victories
- Give yourself a break – no-one can keep going all the time
- Win/win or no deal – back to the 7 Habits; there doesn’t have to be a loser
Whatever you do and whatever you’re going through: DO NOT GIVE UP.
“Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality.” – Bruce Lee
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